Videography by Eye Square Productions
"YOU ARE NOT your image!" my personal development facilitator once exclaimed to the class I was in a few years ago, during our discussion topic of 'Empowering self image'. He asked, "Does your image have power over you? Or do you OWN your image?" This got us all thinking, with debates regarding the importance of how we dress, look, first impressions, etc. And I concur at that point, reflecting on the way society has been. However after our embarrassingly fun activity, it allowed me in gaining a new perspective in experiencing 'essence', my own and others! Rather than focusing on who I am based on how I dress up... I had the chance in realizing no matter how I look on the outside, it is my 'inner self' that will truly shine through and leave the biggest impression!
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
With the above tid bit shared, it leads into my "Fhairwell" story!
Never would I have ever thought "Hey let's put 'cutting my hair short', on the bucket list".. but in the end of last year, it got on the list! WHY? Well because, I recognized the fear I held onto whenever my stylist Tash, would ask "Care to take off anything more than 2 inches?" For the last 20 some years my hair became my security blanket. I've grown up with believing : 'Girls needed to have long hair.' That's what most of the Disney Princesses had! Long beautiful, luscious hair and the "happily ever after" deal! And I thought, that's what I wanted! I held onto so many disempowering beliefs' such as, " If I didn't have long hair, I wouldn't be beautiful, I wouldn't be sexy, I would be less feminine, I wouldn't be attractive anymore!" Looking back now, those thoughts were so silly to have held onto so tightly!
I had the cut done in late March, by my friend Cyro, a local fashion hair stylist in Calgary. (Super young, sassy, creative individual!) We took off a total of 16'inchs and no tears were shed! 16 inches of years and years of growth + many memories gone! And I actually had a super fun time during my cut! The young ladies who sat right behind me, was being nervous and surprised for me! Cyro and I over heard phrases such as, "Oh my goodness, she's not cutting all that is she?! I'll take her hair! Is she okay?! I'm going to cry for her!"
And if my old self from about 2 years ago were to have been sitting in the chair, I may have doubted myself and backed out. However... Thank goodness I didn't, because after looking at myself in the mirror, along with a huge pile of hair on the floor... I felt incredibly happy, liberated and light! It was a wonderful moment to allow myself in practicing 'letting go' of something I've put so so much meaning behind!
For anyone who may want to go short? I say, GO FOR IT! Hair grows!
Find a stylist you trust, who understands your style, your reason and embrace your confidence in loving you in every way and any look! You may be surprised with how this change may allow other things to shine through! ( I was! )
Please show some love to those who supported me with this [x] off my bucket list if you have enjoyed our work!
Photography: Shawn Daniel McLeod || Website | Facebook ||
Videography/ESP photos: Paul Spenard || Facebook | @eyesquared ||
HUMA/ Flower Styling: Shawn McLeod
Haircut: Cyro Corpuz || Zxyrium D'Arcane ||
Have a rockin` week!